"I keep moving forward, pressing onward, striving further..." Jill Scott
Well, Happy New Year my lovelies. Its been a mighty long time since I've written to the people, for the people. As I sit here thinking about my life, I have experienced the full spectrum of emotions this past year and during the two hours it took me to complete this post. I am glad that peaceful gratitude has been the end result of both.
This post is serving several purposes as my New Year's/Return to Blogging/Makings Theme Finale. Since my high school graduation in 2000, I have been working diligently to obtain my RN license. There have been many trials and tears along the way. I used to cry and write to my brother often, telling him how I felt worthless because I did not have my degree in 4 years like most of my friends. For the longest I was scared to join Facebook because I have no degree, marriage, fancy house or children to show for myself. How is a woman who is pushing 30 supposed to present herself when these are the defining tasks of her peer group? He would always say "when you get that degree, the diploma, GPA, title, the amount of years, all that wont matter. Your patients, people will be drawn to the loving, humble, giving and experienced woman behind that uniform and that is going to be all that counts." He was right.
This grand feeling of Euphoria I was expecting after walking across that stage in December was non-existent. All that mattered to me was that I was with my family and friends. I felt proud that I survived so many trials and that I never gave up.
During the 9.5 years that led to me obtaining my RN, I: attended several colleges, universities and vocational schools, gained and lost (and lost and gained) nearly 40lbs, suffered and recovered from a major depression, lost several loved ones and friendships that were dear to me, terminated my first and only pregnancy, watched my apartment go up in flames, was put out of my Dad's home several times just to be welcomed back with open arms, and spent a massive amount of time and energy entertaining and desiring males that were poor choices hoping they would give me happiness. I even had a raging confrontation with a co-worker back in 08' that nearly caused me to be terminated and banned from Children's Hospital. (It was by God's grace that the truth was revealed and the outcome resulted in my favor.)
While these events just scratch the surface of the events that occurred within my life this past decade, they have helped me reach a place of faithfulness and appreciation in my life. I remember reading a quote that said "No one is going to be with you your entire life except you, so why not love, appreciate and enjoy your time with yourself." This has truly been my biggest challenge. Most of my life I let people, material things, events and circumstances dictate my attitude about myself and the world around me.
As I pause for a second, Donny Hathaway and Roberta Flack are dominating my ipod's playlist. I listen to take in the perfect harmonies and tears begin to fall. My attitude of gratitude is quickly washed away by sadness. I am reminded how empty loneliness feels. I honestly can't remember what it is like to be loved and adored. I miss and long for physical and emotional intimacy...
"Sigh"...but then I look around my Dad's place and I smile again. I let out a hearty laugh because he brought his air horn to my graduation and was blowing it and screaming my name like a mad man in the front row. I see family pictures and all the cards I received from loved ones. I think about the woman I have become. The one that cooked 4 days straight after work so that everyone could enjoy a feast fit for kings on Christmas Day. The woman that gives the little she has to support others, the one that is always there. I think of my freedom to go and do as a please without permission. The one that knows her worth, how she should be treated and no longer accepts less. The one that keeps her home, business and finances in order. The one who is a responsible and productive member of her family and society. Then I smile and remember two words: faith and forward. My purpose is to share love and knowledge. Nursing, writing and my gift of generosity are just a few of the vessels that will lead me to you and lead us to a better experience in this life. I remember not to look to others, but to appreciate the plan and purpose the creator has uniquely designed for me. I feel at ease again.
I believe this year is full of great things to come. I am asking my readers to be patient with me as I strive to maintain balance in my life. Although I have walked across that stage, I am currently in the process of studying for my state board exam. I am also moving to Florida this summer which means I am taking at least 2 trips south, filling out vacancy applications, looking at apartments (I'm a grown damn woman, no roommates allowed! LOL) and working extra shifts to save money. All this while attempting to keep my sanity, have a piece of a social life and still make time for church, Chai, belly dance and long baths. (We'll see how this goes, since I have yet to give up my 12 hours shifts every weekend)
I desire to remain the Queen of "blogging on a higher level" as well. So what I have decided to do is pace myself. My goal is to post on a weekly basis. My original blog was 1.5 years old, had 122 beautiful posts and was accidentally deleted. Luckily I was able to recover all of my old posts. So I am apologizing to my devoted readers in advance, but while I am transitioning I will be mixing new and old posts to rebuild and maintain volume and consistency. I am a woman of quality so you are guaranteed to be inspired and enlightened whether new or old.
I want to thank you for offering a part of your valuable time to me. I am looking forward to you joining me in the near future. Until then I wish you love, light and salud! :-).